A Different Perspective

Sometimes we see people and situations in a certain way that keeps us stuck, unhappy, and unable to move forward in our lives. We are too emotionally enmeshed; perhaps with our children, our partner, or our parents.

I have found it helpful in these cases to talk to other people and get a different perspective. Our perspective is only that – “our” perspective. It is not necessarily the reality of the situation because we see people and situations through our own experiences, hurts, and fears and this can blind us to what is really going on.

Sometimes what I think is the loving thing to do, is not really the loving thing to do. Sometimes I have to employ “tough love”. Sometimes I have to detach for a while. Sometimes I have to “let go and let God”. It is all part of realizing that I am still growing and still have a lot to learn in this life. If I am open to talking to others, I can receive new input that helps me process things in a better and healthier way.

What is it that you need to take a different perspective on? A clue might be what situation or person in your life is causing you grief and anxiety. Try a different perspective and be at peace.

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A Different Perspective

Sometimes we see people and situations in a certain way that keeps us stuck, unhappy, and unable to move forward in our lives. We are too emotionally enmeshed; perhaps with our children, our partner, or our parents.

I have found it helpful in these cases to talk to other people and get a different perspective. Our perspective is only that – “our” perspective. It is not necessarily the reality of the situation because we see people and situations through our own experiences, hurts, and fears and this can blind us to what is really going on.

Sometimes what I think is the loving thing to do, is not really the loving thing to do. Sometimes I have to employ “tough love”. Sometimes I have to detach for a while. Sometimes I have to “let go and let God”. It is all part of realizing that I am still growing and still have a lot to learn in this life. If I am open to talking to others, I can receive new input that helps me process things in a better and healthier way.

What is it that you need to take a different perspective on? A clue might be what situation or person in your life is causing you grief and anxiety. Try a different perspective and be at peace.

Stop Thinking, Start Trusting

Sometimes I think about things way too much. Part of that comes from my job as a software engineer where all I do all day is analyze; trying to figure out why something is happening in the computer software. I get paid to do that.

Analyzing things for work is fine, but overthinking things on a personal level is not healthy for the mind or the body. Constant thinking means that I’m never giving my mind a break. Our minds need breaks too, just like our bodies.

I need to start paying more attention to what is going on in my mind. Decide to only think about a certain subject for a period of time, and then give it to God. Trust that I don’t need to figure everything out. Not only do I try to figure out things for today, I try to figure out things in the future. So where do you draw the line between planning for the future and overanalyzing? Anybody out there have any suggestions on this?

The first step to changing a thought pattern is to recognize it. What thought patterns do you have that might need changing? Doesn’t it all boil down to trusting God more and ourselves less? I believe that’s what Proverbs 3:5 is all about when it says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” I think so and it’s very humbling for sure.

Stop Thinking, Start Trusting

Sometimes I think about things way too much. Part of that comes from my job as a software engineer where all I do all day is analyze; trying to figure out why something is happening in the computer software. I get paid to do that.

Analyzing things for work is fine, but overthinking things on a personal level is not healthy for the mind or the body. Constant thinking means that I’m never giving my mind a break. Our minds need breaks too, just like our bodies.

I need to start paying more attention to what is going on in my mind. Decide to only think about a certain subject for a period of time, and then give it to God. Trust that I don’t need to figure everything out. Not only do I try to figure out things for today, I try to figure out things in the future. So where do you draw the line between planning for the future and overanalyzing? Anybody out there have any suggestions on this?

The first step to changing a thought pattern is to recognize it. What thought patterns do you have that might need changing? Doesn’t it all boil down to trusting God more and ourselves less? I believe that’s what Proverbs 3:5 is all about when it says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” I think so and it’s very humbling for sure.

By the Grace of God

I was speaking with someone today who was telling me about their decision to stop drinking.
“What made you decide to stop?” I asked.
“I don’t know for sure. Something told me it was time. Why me and why then?” he pondered aloud.
“The Grace of God,” I suggested.
“I’m not religious, but it could be,” he replied.

Now the Grace of God is defined as “God’s unmerited favor towards us.” It’s not something we earn or deserve. I know in my life God’s grace has been plentiful. I probably would not still be on this earth after everything I’ve been through had it not been for God’s grace and mercy. Having faith and praying is one thing, but unless God steps in to intervene, things are not going to change.

God is not some mean ogre sitting up in the sky looking to torment us. On the contrary, God is a loving, merciful, and forgiving Father who only wants the best for his children – and sometimes the best thing, as we who are parents know, is discipline. Hebrews 12:4-10 talks about how fathers correct their children, so God disciplines the sons and daughters He loves and that we will be made righteous through God’s discipline.

So today, take heart when you go through various trials and tribulations. Know that God has your best in mind and give Him thanks for His great Grace in YOUR life!

By the Grace of God

I was speaking with someone today who was telling me about their decision to stop drinking.
“What made you decide to stop?” I asked.
“I don’t know for sure. Something told me it was time. Why me and why then?” he pondered aloud.
“The Grace of God,” I suggested.
“I’m not religious, but it could be,” he replied.

Now the Grace of God is defined as “God’s unmerited favor towards us.” It’s not something we earn or deserve. I know in my life God’s grace has been plentiful. I probably would not still be on this earth after everything I’ve been through had it not been for God’s grace and mercy. Having faith and praying is one thing, but unless God steps in to intervene, things are not going to change.

God is not some mean ogre sitting up in the sky looking to torment us. On the contrary, God is a loving, merciful, and forgiving Father who only wants the best for his children – and sometimes the best thing, as we who are parents know, is discipline. Hebrews 12:4-10 talks about how fathers correct their children, so God disciplines the sons and daughters He loves and that we will be made righteous through God’s discipline.

So today, take heart when you go through various trials and tribulations. Know that God has your best in mind and give Him thanks for His great Grace in YOUR life!

Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

Sounds like an old cliche, doesn’t it? But it is so true. I was listening to some motivational CDs this week, and the question was “Do you want the next 6 years of your life to be the same as the last 6?” Good question, huh? Really the only thing we have the power to change is ourselves, right? So best to get started.

First up, I change my thinking about a particular area of concern. How? By reading books and listening to materials on the subject to find out what I don’t know. Old saying is so untrue, what you don’t know WILL hurt you! I study to find out the truth. I seek wise counsel. Usually involves learning some new skills.

Third, and most importantly, I apply those new truths and skills. I use sticky notes and post them in places like the kitchen and the bathroom mirror to remind me to think differently. Like Scripture says, “Faith without works is dead.” I must not only believe things can change, I need to take ACTION. If I do my part, God is faithful to do His part. Remember the Israelites crossing the river Jordan? There they were before the vast river leading to the Promised Land. What did God tell the priests to do “Put your foot in the water!” He wanted them to take a step in faith and then He made the river stop flowing. That’s all it takes, a bit of courage, and one step of faith.

What is it in your life that needs to change? What steps have you taken to make that happen? Please write and let me know what’s going on in your life and to God be the glory!

Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

Sounds like an old cliche, doesn’t it? But it is so true. I was listening to some motivational CDs this week, and the question was “Do you want the next 6 years of your life to be the same as the last 6?” Good question, huh? Really the only thing we have the power to change is ourselves, right? So best to get started.

First up, I change my thinking about a particular area of concern. How? By reading books and listening to materials on the subject to find out what I don’t know. Old saying is so untrue, what you don’t know WILL hurt you! I study to find out the truth. I seek wise counsel. Usually involves learning some new skills.

Third, and most importantly, I apply those new truths and skills. I use sticky notes and post them in places like the kitchen and the bathroom mirror to remind me to think differently. Like Scripture says, “Faith without works is dead.” I must not only believe things can change, I need to take ACTION. If I do my part, God is faithful to do His part. Remember the Israelites crossing the river Jordan? There they were before the vast river leading to the Promised Land. What did God tell the priests to do “Put your foot in the water!” He wanted them to take a step in faith and then He made the river stop flowing. That’s all it takes, a bit of courage, and one step of faith.

What is it in your life that needs to change? What steps have you taken to make that happen? Please write and let me know what’s going on in your life and to God be the glory!

As A Man Thinketh

What are you thinking about right now? Stop and take a moment to check in with your thoughts. Are they positive or not? Are your thoughts moving you in a forward direction in life or are they holding you back?

As James Allen, the author of “As a Man Thinketh” puts it “A noble and God-like character is not a thing of favor or chance, but is the natural result of continued effort in right thinking, the effect of long-cherished association with God-like thoughts.”

We all have long-ingrained thinking patterns that may be distorting reality. Perhaps a certain person in our lives triggers us to react, or we get frustrated when we don’t get our way. Maybe we see ourselves as fat, ugly, or stupid. Maybe we feel rejection from our parents and that we must earn approval and acceptance – all lies and deception to keep us from the many promises of God for our lives.

I have developed a habit of asking myself “How can I look at this differently?” and I find that this helps tremendously reduce the amount of suffering and pain I perceive.

Romans 12:2 encourages us to “Be transformed daily by the renewing of our minds” and “not to be conformed to the likeness of this world”. But this takes effort on our part. It is not going to just happen on its own. We must renew our minds with God’s truth and believe it in our hearts.

Today, dear ones, slow down a bit to contemplate what goes on in your mind. We can choose what we think about and how we react to what goes on around us. Remember that the irritations in life are tests that the Lord is using to refine our character and make us more like Him.

Remember how much Jesus loves you that He gave his life for you and ask the Lord to help you renew your thinking so you can move forward in your life.

As A Man Thinketh

What are you thinking about right now? Stop and take a moment to check in with your thoughts. Are they positive or not? Are your thoughts moving you in a forward direction in life or are they holding you back?

As James Allen, the author of “As a Man Thinketh” puts it “A noble and God-like character is not a thing of favor or chance, but is the natural result of continued effort in right thinking, the effect of long-cherished association with God-like thoughts.”

We all have long-ingrained thinking patterns that may be distorting reality. Perhaps a certain person in our lives triggers us to react, or we get frustrated when we don’t get our way. Maybe we see ourselves as fat, ugly, or stupid. Maybe we feel rejection from our parents and that we must earn approval and acceptance – all lies and deception to keep us from the many promises of God for our lives.

I have developed a habit of asking myself “How can I look at this differently?” and I find that this helps tremendously reduce the amount of suffering and pain I perceive.

Romans 12:2 encourages us to “Be transformed daily by the renewing of our minds” and “not to be conformed to the likeness of this world”. But this takes effort on our part. It is not going to just happen on its own. We must renew our minds with God’s truth and believe it in our hearts.

Today, dear ones, slow down a bit to contemplate what goes on in your mind. We can choose what we think about and how we react to what goes on around us. Remember that the irritations in life are tests that the Lord is using to refine our character and make us more like Him.

Remember how much Jesus loves you that He gave his life for you and ask the Lord to help you renew your thinking so you can move forward in your life.