Communication Quenchers

The topic has been the power of our words. I am working on correcting the non-helpful communication habits I have. Like asking questions and giving unsolicited advice. When will I learn? Questions don’t seem to really help when someone is going through a tough time. I think I am trying to understand them, but it doesn’t quite come across that way. Seems to me that they just want someone to listen to them. I think fully listening to someone is such a gift of love and respect. I know how good I feel when I am heard and understood.

Then there’s the giving of advice. I have managed to do it now indirectly, by saying something like “This is what I do…” but what works for one person may or may not work for someone else. My desire is to help the other person, but maybe they don’t want my help. Could it be that feels to them like I think they can’t handle their own problems? Maybe, just maybe.

So I guess I will have to resort to “Gee, I’m sorry you’re going through this” and “I’ll pray for you”. Anybody out there have any suggestions? I’d love to hear from you on this.

Communication Quenchers

The topic has been the power of our words. I am working on correcting the non-helpful communication habits I have. Like asking questions and giving unsolicited advice. When will I learn? Questions don’t seem to really help when someone is going through a tough time. I think I am trying to understand them, but it doesn’t quite come across that way. Seems to me that they just want someone to listen to them. I think fully listening to someone is such a gift of love and respect. I know how good I feel when I am heard and understood.

Then there’s the giving of advice. I have managed to do it now indirectly, by saying something like “This is what I do…” but what works for one person may or may not work for someone else. My desire is to help the other person, but maybe they don’t want my help. Could it be that feels to them like I think they can’t handle their own problems? Maybe, just maybe.

So I guess I will have to resort to “Gee, I’m sorry you’re going through this” and “I’ll pray for you”. Anybody out there have any suggestions? I’d love to hear from you on this.

The Power of Our Words

There is great power in the words we speak. A few words can make or break someone’s day. People, especially our loved ones, really take to heart what is spoken to them. You can tell by a person’s demeanor when their feelings get hurt.

The other day, I made a comment about people who are unable to make long-term commitments and how that might relate to maintaining a relationship. I was speaking in general, but one of my good friends was in the car and she took it personally and said she felt accused. Wow! I apologized immediately and explained I was speaking in general. She happened to be dealing with a decision at the time, so the issue was particularly sensitive to her.

What I am trying to say is that it is so important to really keep a guard over our mouths and be disciplined in our speech. I guess it would help if we thought about who it is that is listening and how they might take it. But, boy, now that is a lot of effort isn’t it? Let me know your thoughts on speaking and the power of words. Have you had any situations that caused you to want to take back what you said?

The Power of Our Words

There is great power in the words we speak. A few words can make or break someone’s day. People, especially our loved ones, really take to heart what is spoken to them. You can tell by a person’s demeanor when their feelings get hurt.

The other day, I made a comment about people who are unable to make long-term commitments and how that might relate to maintaining a relationship. I was speaking in general, but one of my good friends was in the car and she took it personally and said she felt accused. Wow! I apologized immediately and explained I was speaking in general. She happened to be dealing with a decision at the time, so the issue was particularly sensitive to her.

What I am trying to say is that it is so important to really keep a guard over our mouths and be disciplined in our speech. I guess it would help if we thought about who it is that is listening and how they might take it. But, boy, now that is a lot of effort isn’t it? Let me know your thoughts on speaking and the power of words. Have you had any situations that caused you to want to take back what you said?

Words of Affirmation

Have you spoken a kind word today? Everyone likes to be told they are doing a good job, thanked for their service, or complimented on their new tie, shirt, hairdo or whatever. It’s a small thing that doesn’t take much effort, except to notice. A kind word can bring a smile to someone’s face and isn’t that priceless?

We never know what others are going through and a simple word of kindness may have more impact than we know. Words are powerful. The Bible exhorts us to be quick to listen and slow to speak and to let our words be like salt, that add flavor.

We all need to be edified on a daily basis. There is so much out there in the world that drags us down and makes us feel less than in some way. We are God’s children and He loves us. That’s all we need to know and believe. But sometimes we need a little reminder, don’t we?

Today, let our speech be with grace, Lord, and help us to encourage and uplift others.

Words of Affirmation

Have you spoken a kind word today? Everyone likes to be told they are doing a good job, thanked for their service, or complimented on their new tie, shirt, hairdo or whatever. It’s a small thing that doesn’t take much effort, except to notice. A kind word can bring a smile to someone’s face and isn’t that priceless?

We never know what others are going through and a simple word of kindness may have more impact than we know. Words are powerful. The Bible exhorts us to be quick to listen and slow to speak and to let our words be like salt, that add flavor.

We all need to be edified on a daily basis. There is so much out there in the world that drags us down and makes us feel less than in some way. We are God’s children and He loves us. That’s all we need to know and believe. But sometimes we need a little reminder, don’t we?

Today, let our speech be with grace, Lord, and help us to encourage and uplift others.

The Favor of God

Do you ever contemplate on the favor of God? I am constantly amazed at how much God loves us when I see Him in action, performing miraculous feats that I know are His handiwork.

For instance, this past weekend I was supposed to go to the beach with a large group of church friends. As we prepared, organized, and made arrangements, an ominous weather forecast developed – a hurricane was headed up the coast due to hit on the very day our group was headed into the beach area. Faithful group leaders extolled “full steam ahead” and I’m sure I was not the only one praying for the storm to not impact our trip. Upon arrival, all that remained of the storm were a few dark clouds and some wind. The sun soon appeared making for a lovely holiday weekend at the beach.

On sunday, I had my heart set on a delicious brunch at a local restaurant on the boardwalk. Church ran over, and I didn’t arrive until after the breakfast hours were over. Bravely I asked a server if I could still order breakfast. “Lord, please let them serve me” I prayed as I watched him check with the manager and the manager check with the kitchen. “Only one more” breakfast order I heard the manager say – and it was mine! As the server delivered my much anticipated breakfast meal, I could only praise God for his great favor towards me.

Now I don’t know how you see these things, but I choose to see God’s hand. The hurricane could have very well hit the beach and the entire weekend would have been a washout. The manager could have stuck by the rules and refused to serve me.

Have you seen evidence of God’s favor in your life? Have you asked for it? I’m positive you will see it and when you do, be sure to give God the glory and the thanks.

The Favor of God

Do you ever contemplate on the favor of God? I am constantly amazed at how much God loves us when I see Him in action, performing miraculous feats that I know are His handiwork.

For instance, this past weekend I was supposed to go to the beach with a large group of church friends. As we prepared, organized, and made arrangements, an ominous weather forecast developed – a hurricane was headed up the coast due to hit on the very day our group was headed into the beach area. Faithful group leaders extolled “full steam ahead” and I’m sure I was not the only one praying for the storm to not impact our trip. Upon arrival, all that remained of the storm were a few dark clouds and some wind. The sun soon appeared making for a lovely holiday weekend at the beach.

On sunday, I had my heart set on a delicious brunch at a local restaurant on the boardwalk. Church ran over, and I didn’t arrive until after the breakfast hours were over. Bravely I asked a server if I could still order breakfast. “Lord, please let them serve me” I prayed as I watched him check with the manager and the manager check with the kitchen. “Only one more” breakfast order I heard the manager say – and it was mine! As the server delivered my much anticipated breakfast meal, I could only praise God for his great favor towards me.

Now I don’t know how you see these things, but I choose to see God’s hand. The hurricane could have very well hit the beach and the entire weekend would have been a washout. The manager could have stuck by the rules and refused to serve me.

Have you seen evidence of God’s favor in your life? Have you asked for it? I’m positive you will see it and when you do, be sure to give God the glory and the thanks.

Do Not Be Anxious

How are things going with you these days? Great? Terrible? So so? Sometimes it takes putting things in perspective to make me appreciate all I have been blessed with.

When I start to think I have it rough, particularly as a single in today’s couples oriented society, I think about the Apostle Paul and everything he went through. Now that was rough! Yet he stayed hopeful and faithful and continued to do what God had called him to do.

There are many verses in the Bible that tells us not to be anxious, but to pray and surrender instead. Paul encourages us to not be anxious, but to pray about everything (Phil 4:6). James 5:16 says the prayers of a righteous man availeth much. There is power in prayer. He never intended for me to carry all these burdens. That’s why He said to come unto him, all who are weary and heavy laden. He does give us rest, but we have to slow down enough to come to him, don’t we? God can take care of all our problems. 1 Peter 5 instructs us to cast all our cares on Him, because He cares for us.

These are busy, hectic, stressful days indeed, especially for those who are single and do not have someone to help them. But there is an answer. And that answer is faith. Having faith in a loving God that cares for us and hears our cries. He promises to never leave us or forsake us and no matter what our status, remember if God is for us, who can be against us?

Do Not Be Anxious

How are things going with you these days? Great? Terrible? So so? Sometimes it takes putting things in perspective to make me appreciate all I have been blessed with.

When I start to think I have it rough, particularly as a single in today’s couples oriented society, I think about the Apostle Paul and everything he went through. Now that was rough! Yet he stayed hopeful and faithful and continued to do what God had called him to do.

There are many verses in the Bible that tells us not to be anxious, but to pray and surrender instead. Paul encourages us to not be anxious, but to pray about everything (Phil 4:6). James 5:16 says the prayers of a righteous man availeth much. There is power in prayer. He never intended for me to carry all these burdens. That’s why He said to come unto him, all who are weary and heavy laden. He does give us rest, but we have to slow down enough to come to him, don’t we? God can take care of all our problems. 1 Peter 5 instructs us to cast all our cares on Him, because He cares for us.

These are busy, hectic, stressful days indeed, especially for those who are single and do not have someone to help them. But there is an answer. And that answer is faith. Having faith in a loving God that cares for us and hears our cries. He promises to never leave us or forsake us and no matter what our status, remember if God is for us, who can be against us?