How to Communicate Your Love

How good are you at expressing love to your spouse, partner, children and friends? Healthy relationships thrive when there is good communication and that includes communicating love. What ways do you show your love? And more importantly, does the recipient actually feel loved?

In his book, “The Five Love Languages”, Gary Chapman talks about the ways different people give and receive love. One way is through physical touch. This may be obvious to many, but others of us might not realize how important physical touch is. Perhaps we were not raised in a family where a lot of physical expression was displayed.

Studies have shown that baby monkeys who are separated from their mothers at birth suffer severe problems. We all need physical touch in good amounts and on a regular basis.

It could be as simple as putting a hand on someone’s hand when they are distressed, or an arm around their shoulders when they are crying, or even a pat on the back to say “Well done”. If a woman wants to get a man’s attention when she’s talking to him, she could try putting her hand on his arm lightly and then speaking. A man can console an emotional woman by simply taking her two hands in his and holding them. These are only a few examples of physical touch to express caring.

Hugging is another example. Just be sure it is done appropriately when hugging a woman and be sure there is not a jealous husband or boyfriend around. Hugging is a universal act between the sexes and it is a simple way to communicate affection.

Next time, I will talk about the second love language. In the meantime, experiment with physical touch and see how people respond. You might be surprised!

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How to Communicate Your Love

How good are you at expressing love to your spouse, partner, children and friends? Healthy relationships thrive when there is good communication and that includes communicating love. What ways do you show your love? And more importantly, does the recipient actually feel loved?

In his book, “The Five Love Languages”, Gary Chapman talks about the ways different people give and receive love. One way is through physical touch. This may be obvious to many, but others of us might not realize how important physical touch is. Perhaps we were not raised in a family where a lot of physical expression was displayed.

Studies have shown that baby monkeys who are separated from their mothers at birth suffer severe problems. We all need physical touch in good amounts and on a regular basis.

It could be as simple as putting a hand on someone’s hand when they are distressed, or an arm around their shoulders when they are crying, or even a pat on the back to say “Well done”. If a woman wants to get a man’s attention when she’s talking to him, she could try putting her hand on his arm lightly and then speaking. A man can console an emotional woman by simply taking her two hands in his and holding them. These are only a few examples of physical touch to express caring.

Hugging is another example. Just be sure it is done appropriately when hugging a woman and be sure there is not a jealous husband or boyfriend around. Hugging is a universal act between the sexes and it is a simple way to communicate affection.

Next time, I will talk about the second love language. In the meantime, experiment with physical touch and see how people respond. You might be surprised!

The Favor of God

Have you experienced the favor of God recently? I’m sure you have but are you aware that you have? It wasn’t until a few years ago that I became familiar with the favor of God. A Christian friend of mine kept pointing it out whenever we were together and something good would happen.

A parking space, front row seats, finding a $20 bill in the street, a stranger providing directions at a timely moment, a package or unexpected gift showing up in the mail when I’m having a tough day; these are all examples of the favor of God.

Last night I was out to dinner with some friends. We were at a casual Italian place and the tables were few and far between as it was a saturday night. We had a party of 7. As we were greeting each other, a coworker of mine walked up to say hello. “What are you doing in this neck of the woods?” he asked. “We’re celebrating a friend’s birthday and then going dancing,” I replied.

Right about then, one of our party suggested we capture a table. There were only single tables that sat 4 people available. As we were pulling out extra chairs and trying to decide how to accomodate everyone, my coworker and his wife, who were in the middle of eating their dinner, pack up their food and plates and move to another table so we could pull the two tables together. Now what are the chances of running into someone I know, who lives in a totally different part of town, being at the same restaurant at the same time, offering to give up a table for us? I ask you!

Now some might call it serendipity, good luck or coincidence, but I know better. When it happens over and over again, it is not chance, dear reader. I know God’s hand in action and I believe in giving credit where credit is due, you know what I mean?

God loves us; that is the bottom line. When you are walking with God, it’s like Christmas everyday. You never know when he is going to surprise you with some blessing. Today I encourage you to look out for God’s favor. Be thankful and realize how much God truly loves you!

The Favor of God

Have you experienced the favor of God recently? I’m sure you have but are you aware that you have? It wasn’t until a few years ago that I became familiar with the favor of God. A Christian friend of mine kept pointing it out whenever we were together and something good would happen.

A parking space, front row seats, finding a $20 bill in the street, a stranger providing directions at a timely moment, a package or unexpected gift showing up in the mail when I’m having a tough day; these are all examples of the favor of God.

Last night I was out to dinner with some friends. We were at a casual Italian place and the tables were few and far between as it was a saturday night. We had a party of 7. As we were greeting each other, a coworker of mine walked up to say hello. “What are you doing in this neck of the woods?” he asked. “We’re celebrating a friend’s birthday and then going dancing,” I replied.

Right about then, one of our party suggested we capture a table. There were only single tables that sat 4 people available. As we were pulling out extra chairs and trying to decide how to accomodate everyone, my coworker and his wife, who were in the middle of eating their dinner, pack up their food and plates and move to another table so we could pull the two tables together. Now what are the chances of running into someone I know, who lives in a totally different part of town, being at the same restaurant at the same time, offering to give up a table for us? I ask you!

Now some might call it serendipity, good luck or coincidence, but I know better. When it happens over and over again, it is not chance, dear reader. I know God’s hand in action and I believe in giving credit where credit is due, you know what I mean?

God loves us; that is the bottom line. When you are walking with God, it’s like Christmas everyday. You never know when he is going to surprise you with some blessing. Today I encourage you to look out for God’s favor. Be thankful and realize how much God truly loves you!

How to Love

What is loving others all about, anyway and how do we do it effectively? The older I get, the more I understand that I need to learn how to love other people better and differently. Loving ourselves comes easily,for most of us, doesn’t it? But when it comes to loving others now that is quite a different story. It is not something that comes naturally to most. Although I consider myself a very loving person, as most of us probably do, I am realizing that there is still much room for improvement.

One of the main characteristics of love, I think, is the ability to give; to give of one’s self, one’s time, one’s energy, and one’s resources; to give without expectation of something given back in return. Giving is love in action. A good test of how loving we are is how easy is it for us to give.

Valentine’s Day has just passed and for me it was an opportunity to think of a creative way to bring a smile to someone’s face. Over the years I have baked cookies and distributed them to my neighbors’ doorsteps, nicely wrapped with red ribbon. At work, I leave those Valentine cards we used to give when we were back in school at my coworkers’ cubicles when they are not there. I try to mix the playful with the romantic. My thinking is that Valentine’s Day is a day set aside to remind us to show others that they are loved. Don’t we all need to know that?

In this busy life, I think we do need reminders to be loving. We can get so caught up in our own lives, problems, and stresses, that we can easily forget to look out for others who may need a loving gesture, a smile, a box of chocolates or even a small bouquet of flowers to brighten their day. We never know what someone is going through and everyone is fighting their own battles.

Stay tuned as the topic of how to love continues and please do write and send me your thoughts and ideas. Until next time, be a blessing!

How to Love

What is loving others all about, anyway and how do we do it effectively? The older I get, the more I understand that I need to learn how to love other people better and differently. Loving ourselves comes easily,for most of us, doesn’t it? But when it comes to loving others now that is quite a different story. It is not something that comes naturally to most. Although I consider myself a very loving person, as most of us probably do, I am realizing that there is still much room for improvement.

One of the main characteristics of love, I think, is the ability to give; to give of one’s self, one’s time, one’s energy, and one’s resources; to give without expectation of something given back in return. Giving is love in action. A good test of how loving we are is how easy is it for us to give.

Valentine’s Day has just passed and for me it was an opportunity to think of a creative way to bring a smile to someone’s face. Over the years I have baked cookies and distributed them to my neighbors’ doorsteps, nicely wrapped with red ribbon. At work, I leave those Valentine cards we used to give when we were back in school at my coworkers’ cubicles when they are not there. I try to mix the playful with the romantic. My thinking is that Valentine’s Day is a day set aside to remind us to show others that they are loved. Don’t we all need to know that?

In this busy life, I think we do need reminders to be loving. We can get so caught up in our own lives, problems, and stresses, that we can easily forget to look out for others who may need a loving gesture, a smile, a box of chocolates or even a small bouquet of flowers to brighten their day. We never know what someone is going through and everyone is fighting their own battles.

Stay tuned as the topic of how to love continues and please do write and send me your thoughts and ideas. Until next time, be a blessing!

Why Am I Here?

Many people wonder about their purpose in life. Movies have been made to address this timeless question which is one worth taking some time to contemplate.

Why was I put on this earth?

Some people seem to know right away that they want to be a doctor, or an actress, or a teacher or a pilot. They just know what they want to do and make a plan. Others of us kind of drift into our careers sideways and many switch careers several times in a lifetime. But is a career, a job, a profession one’s purpose? To some degree, it can be. But in the bigger scheme of things, what are we here for? Really?

This question is not unlike the question posed to Jesus two thousand years ago. When discussing philosophical and theological issues, a teacher of the law asked Jesus, “Of all the commandments which is the most important?” “The most important one,”answered Jesus, is this: ‘Hear O Israel, The Lord our God, the Lord, is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'” (Matt 12:28-31).

Basically, if we want to learn anything about our purpose in life, we have to start with loving God, loving ourselves, and then letting that love flow out to other people. It is truly a hurting world out there. Many are lonely, tired, hungry, poor, and hopeless. Once we realize how much God truly loves us, we will be made whole and then we can go out into the world to do good to others. That, dear ones, is the purpose for each and every one of us.

Everything else is secondary. As the Apostle Paul put it so well in his famous discourse on love (1 Corinthians 13) it doesn’t matter what we do, what we have or how much we know for if we do not have and give love, we are nothing.

Why Am I Here?

Many people wonder about their purpose in life. Movies have been made to address this timeless question which is one worth taking some time to contemplate.

Why was I put on this earth?

Some people seem to know right away that they want to be a doctor, or an actress, or a teacher or a pilot. They just know what they want to do and make a plan. Others of us kind of drift into our careers sideways and many switch careers several times in a lifetime. But is a career, a job, a profession one’s purpose? To some degree, it can be. But in the bigger scheme of things, what are we here for? Really?

This question is not unlike the question posed to Jesus two thousand years ago. When discussing philosophical and theological issues, a teacher of the law asked Jesus, “Of all the commandments which is the most important?” “The most important one,”answered Jesus, is this: ‘Hear O Israel, The Lord our God, the Lord, is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'” (Matt 12:28-31).

Basically, if we want to learn anything about our purpose in life, we have to start with loving God, loving ourselves, and then letting that love flow out to other people. It is truly a hurting world out there. Many are lonely, tired, hungry, poor, and hopeless. Once we realize how much God truly loves us, we will be made whole and then we can go out into the world to do good to others. That, dear ones, is the purpose for each and every one of us.

Everything else is secondary. As the Apostle Paul put it so well in his famous discourse on love (1 Corinthians 13) it doesn’t matter what we do, what we have or how much we know for if we do not have and give love, we are nothing.

What Are You Living For?

Life is so fast-paced these days, isn’t it? Everyone I talk to says the same thing. “I’m busy”.Regardless of whether one is married, single, working, or retired, the answer is still the same. “I’m busy.”

The question I want to pose today is “Busy with what?” What are we all so busy doing? Daily activities and chores such as cleaning house, laundry, washing the car can keep us plenty busy. Taking care of ourselves and others can keep us busy. Work, play, rest, and going to church take up more time. But at the end of the day, week, month, year can we look back and say “Well done, good and faithful servant?” What have we done that really matters for the Kingdom? For eternity? What have we done that makes a difference?

That’s my question for us all today. Today is really all we have. What have I done today to bring peace, show love, kindness, encouragement? Who or what have I served today? I guess it all boils down to “How have I emulated Jesus today?”

We will all have to account to the King, our Heavenly Father, some day and give an account for our lives. Woe to those who have forsaken Jesus, for they shall truly be judged, but that’s a message for another day.

Today, I want to encourage you to make time to do something that matters. It doesn’t have to be a huge thing. Perhaps call a sick friend, encourage a loved one, take dinner over to a neighbor, shovel their driveway. No one else has to know about it, for your Heavenly Father sees all. Make each day count, so that at the end of your life, you can look back and say “Well done!”

What Are You Living For?

Life is so fast-paced these days, isn’t it? Everyone I talk to says the same thing. “I’m busy”.Regardless of whether one is married, single, working, or retired, the answer is still the same. “I’m busy.”

The question I want to pose today is “Busy with what?” What are we all so busy doing? Daily activities and chores such as cleaning house, laundry, washing the car can keep us plenty busy. Taking care of ourselves and others can keep us busy. Work, play, rest, and going to church take up more time. But at the end of the day, week, month, year can we look back and say “Well done, good and faithful servant?” What have we done that really matters for the Kingdom? For eternity? What have we done that makes a difference?

That’s my question for us all today. Today is really all we have. What have I done today to bring peace, show love, kindness, encouragement? Who or what have I served today? I guess it all boils down to “How have I emulated Jesus today?”

We will all have to account to the King, our Heavenly Father, some day and give an account for our lives. Woe to those who have forsaken Jesus, for they shall truly be judged, but that’s a message for another day.

Today, I want to encourage you to make time to do something that matters. It doesn’t have to be a huge thing. Perhaps call a sick friend, encourage a loved one, take dinner over to a neighbor, shovel their driveway. No one else has to know about it, for your Heavenly Father sees all. Make each day count, so that at the end of your life, you can look back and say “Well done!”