How Can I Serve You?

The fifth love language, according to author Gary Chapman, is acts of service – doing things for the other person, especially things to assist with their load. Most of us are very busy these days, and it really takes an effort to make the time to do something for your loved one, but that just shows you how powerful acts of service can be.

Some examples are cooking dinner, washing the car, doing the laundry, vacuuming, cleaning the tub, offering to repair something around the house, going to the grocery store, bringing home dinner. Any act of service says to the other person “I care about you and I want to help you.” When your mate is overloaded, the simple phrase “What can I do to help?” is music to their ears. It means you are willing to take the time to stop whatever you are doing to help lighten their load.

Isn’t that what love is all about? Didn’t Jesus say “Bear one another’s burdens”? We all get overwhelmed at times, and if your love language is acts of service, it really means a lot when someone lends a helping hand. Today, if you are looking to enrich your relationship, take a good look around and see what you can do to help lighten your mate’s load. They will feel better and you will, too!

How Can I Serve You?

The fifth love language, according to author Gary Chapman, is acts of service – doing things for the other person, especially things to assist with their load. Most of us are very busy these days, and it really takes an effort to make the time to do something for your loved one, but that just shows you how powerful acts of service can be.

Some examples are cooking dinner, washing the car, doing the laundry, vacuuming, cleaning the tub, offering to repair something around the house, going to the grocery store, bringing home dinner. Any act of service says to the other person “I care about you and I want to help you.” When your mate is overloaded, the simple phrase “What can I do to help?” is music to their ears. It means you are willing to take the time to stop whatever you are doing to help lighten their load.

Isn’t that what love is all about? Didn’t Jesus say “Bear one another’s burdens”? We all get overwhelmed at times, and if your love language is acts of service, it really means a lot when someone lends a helping hand. Today, if you are looking to enrich your relationship, take a good look around and see what you can do to help lighten your mate’s load. They will feel better and you will, too!

Love Languages – Part 4

The fourth love language is quality time; spending one on one time with your mate or partner.

Gals like to do things like shop, get their nails done, go for a massage. They love it when their partner wants to join them in these things. Guys, on the other hand, like to do physical activities such as biking, hiking, skiing, rock climbing, motorcycle riding. They love it when their woman wants to join them in these activities. I have also noticed that men that like to watch sports like their woman to be there with them while they are watching the big game.

So, what to make of these realities? Yes, I understand that going for a manicure or a massage or watching a football game might not be something you would like to do for YOURSELF. However, we are not talking about pleasing yourself here. We are talking about loving THE OTHER PERSON. The question to ask is not “How am I going to please myself?” but “How can I please my mate?”

In my opinion, women have a tendency to devote most of their time and energy to the kids, the house, and various other activities. By the end of the day, they have little time or energy to devote to their spouse who really needs her attention. Men have a tendency to put their jobs first, thinking that by saying “Look how hard I work for you” they are showing love. If your mate’s primary love language is quality time, she is going to value your time together more than your hours at the office working overtime.

So, dear ones, today, consider how much time are you spending with your loved one. If your relationship is faltering, plan an outing together, a picnic, a night on the town or even spend a quiet evening at home after a nice meal. It just may put the sparkle back in your love life!

Love Languages – Part 4

The fourth love language is quality time; spending one on one time with your mate or partner.

Gals like to do things like shop, get their nails done, go for a massage. They love it when their partner wants to join them in these things. Guys, on the other hand, like to do physical activities such as biking, hiking, skiing, rock climbing, motorcycle riding. They love it when their woman wants to join them in these activities. I have also noticed that men that like to watch sports like their woman to be there with them while they are watching the big game.

So, what to make of these realities? Yes, I understand that going for a manicure or a massage or watching a football game might not be something you would like to do for YOURSELF. However, we are not talking about pleasing yourself here. We are talking about loving THE OTHER PERSON. The question to ask is not “How am I going to please myself?” but “How can I please my mate?”

In my opinion, women have a tendency to devote most of their time and energy to the kids, the house, and various other activities. By the end of the day, they have little time or energy to devote to their spouse who really needs her attention. Men have a tendency to put their jobs first, thinking that by saying “Look how hard I work for you” they are showing love. If your mate’s primary love language is quality time, she is going to value your time together more than your hours at the office working overtime.

So, dear ones, today, consider how much time are you spending with your loved one. If your relationship is faltering, plan an outing together, a picnic, a night on the town or even spend a quiet evening at home after a nice meal. It just may put the sparkle back in your love life!

The Third Language of Love

Do you like to give gifts? Do you like to receive gifts? If so, your love language may be giving gifts.

Gift giving does not have to be expensive. Little things like a bouquet of flowers, a mug of his/her favorite coffee, perhaps a card or a note. Little things on a regular basis can certainly put the spark back in your relationship.

Giving gifts shows we are thinking about the other person, we care about them, and we made the time to purchase something we think they would like. Note that I said “purchase something we think they would like.” Many people give gifts, but I have noticed that they are giving gifts THEY would LIKE. When purchasing a gift for someone, you really have to think about them as an individual – their tastes, their likes, their personality.

How often have you received a gift and thought “Why are they giving this to me?” A few years ago, someone gave me a green pin cushion as a birthday gift. I was perplexed. I don’t have a sewing machine and I thought, either a) they were regifting it or b) they had no idea what else to get me. If you know someone well enough to feel comfortable giving them a gift, don’t you have enough information to get them something they either like or could use?

If you are going to give a give, realize that it takes a bit of thought; that’s what makes it special. I know the expression “It’s the thought that counts” and that is true, but if you want your gift to be meaningful, it is important to make sure the recipient likes it.

Until next time, try giving your loved one a surprise gift and see their reaction. You may be tapping into a new source of closeness between the two of you!

The Third Language of Love

Do you like to give gifts? Do you like to receive gifts? If so, your love language may be giving gifts.

Gift giving does not have to be expensive. Little things like a bouquet of flowers, a mug of his/her favorite coffee, perhaps a card or a note. Little things on a regular basis can certainly put the spark back in your relationship.

Giving gifts shows we are thinking about the other person, we care about them, and we made the time to purchase something we think they would like. Note that I said “purchase something we think they would like.” Many people give gifts, but I have noticed that they are giving gifts THEY would LIKE. When purchasing a gift for someone, you really have to think about them as an individual – their tastes, their likes, their personality.

How often have you received a gift and thought “Why are they giving this to me?” A few years ago, someone gave me a green pin cushion as a birthday gift. I was perplexed. I don’t have a sewing machine and I thought, either a) they were regifting it or b) they had no idea what else to get me. If you know someone well enough to feel comfortable giving them a gift, don’t you have enough information to get them something they either like or could use?

If you are going to give a give, realize that it takes a bit of thought; that’s what makes it special. I know the expression “It’s the thought that counts” and that is true, but if you want your gift to be meaningful, it is important to make sure the recipient likes it.

Until next time, try giving your loved one a surprise gift and see their reaction. You may be tapping into a new source of closeness between the two of you!

Are You Loving?

Would you consider yourself a loving person? Have you ever thought about what makes you a loving person? Have you thought about the ways in which you show love to others?

We’ve been talking about some of the ways people give and receive love: some by physical touch, others by gifts and there are more to be discussed. But when it comes down to the basic idea of love, where does it come from?

I think we learn about love. Our parents are the first examples of love that we see or don’t see. We learn a lot from them. We learn from our dating experiences – what works and what doesn’t. We learn from observing “happily married couples”. But I think the best person to learn about love is from God himself. We’ve all heard the phrase “God is love”, right? What does that mean to you?

To me, God is love means that if I observe how God expresses His love to me, that is how He wants me to love others. Now, I know this is a huge topic and I’m only going to touch the tip of the iceberg, but I think it is a topic worth contemplating. How do I see God loving me? Well, the best place to start is in the person of Jesus Christ. Jesus is God in the flesh; that’s why God sent Him – to show us His great love for us and to demonstrate how to love others.

At our core, aren’t we basically selfish? Don’t we naturally want to do what pleases us first? It takes effort to love someone else and to put their needs before our own, doesn’t it? Now, I’m not saying not to take care of yourself, by any stretch, but to truly love another person, we have to give of ourselves in a sacrificial way, don’t we? And that is exactly what Jesus did – He gave himself – his life -for us on the cross to show us how much God loves us. Now that is love in action.

So, today, dear one, my question for you is how do you love? Where did you learn to love and are there perhaps some things to learn about loving better? For practical suggestions, check out 1 Corinthians 13 which spells out several facets of being a truly loving person and Ephesians 5 which discusses how to love others.

Until next time, practice loving, for whatever you give out returns to you manyfold.

Are You Loving?

Would you consider yourself a loving person? Have you ever thought about what makes you a loving person? Have you thought about the ways in which you show love to others?

We’ve been talking about some of the ways people give and receive love: some by physical touch, others by gifts and there are more to be discussed. But when it comes down to the basic idea of love, where does it come from?

I think we learn about love. Our parents are the first examples of love that we see or don’t see. We learn a lot from them. We learn from our dating experiences – what works and what doesn’t. We learn from observing “happily married couples”. But I think the best person to learn about love is from God himself. We’ve all heard the phrase “God is love”, right? What does that mean to you?

To me, God is love means that if I observe how God expresses His love to me, that is how He wants me to love others. Now, I know this is a huge topic and I’m only going to touch the tip of the iceberg, but I think it is a topic worth contemplating. How do I see God loving me? Well, the best place to start is in the person of Jesus Christ. Jesus is God in the flesh; that’s why God sent Him – to show us His great love for us and to demonstrate how to love others.

At our core, aren’t we basically selfish? Don’t we naturally want to do what pleases us first? It takes effort to love someone else and to put their needs before our own, doesn’t it? Now, I’m not saying not to take care of yourself, by any stretch, but to truly love another person, we have to give of ourselves in a sacrificial way, don’t we? And that is exactly what Jesus did – He gave himself – his life -for us on the cross to show us how much God loves us. Now that is love in action.

So, today, dear one, my question for you is how do you love? Where did you learn to love and are there perhaps some things to learn about loving better? For practical suggestions, check out 1 Corinthians 13 which spells out several facets of being a truly loving person and Ephesians 5 which discusses how to love others.

Until next time, practice loving, for whatever you give out returns to you manyfold.

What is Lent?

Today is the first day of Lent for 2011. Many people were out partying last night to celebrate Mardi Gras. “Fat Tuesday” is typically a day to overeat, overdrink, and indulge before the Lenten season begins, which supposedly signifies giving up all these “fleshly indulgences”.

What does Lent mean to you?

Some decide to give up chocolate,television, or some other thing that brings them pleasure. I think Lent is about more than that. Lent is a time to cut back on activities and fleshly pursuits so that we can spend that time reflecting on ourselves, our relationship with God, and our relationships with others.

What better way to do this than reflect on the person of Jesus Christ? After all, he is the embodiment of God and by looking at his life, his words, and his actions, we can learn how to treat others, how to live an honest and holy life, and how to love ourselves in a balanced way.

Jesus is the perfect example of a life well-lived; a life of service and sacrifice. Jesus knew his purpose in life and dedicated each day to fulfilling it. He made it a priority to heal, to help, to encourage those who were hurting. He was a friend to the poor, the outcast, and the lonely. Most importantly, Jesus followed the will of God, and not his own will, straight to the cross. Guiltless, he paid the penalty for all of our sins in one sacrificial act of atonement.

Isn’t that the truest example of love? To sacrifice yourself for someone else? Denying oneself not just of pizza or chocolate, but to lay down one’s life for another. Jesus shed his blood for the forgiveness of our sins. Think about that for a bit.

Because of Jesus’s death and shed blood, we are seen as cleansed in the sight of God. We can now come to the Father, unashamed and forgiven of all our past mistakes. There is a price to pay and Jesus paid it for us, once and for all.

If you have not considered Jesus lately, dear one, perhaps this Lenten season may be the time to do so. He has a purpose and a plan for your life that only He can reveal. May the Lord of the Universe reveal himself in a new way to you this Lenten season!

What is Lent?

Today is the first day of Lent for 2011. Many people were out partying last night to celebrate Mardi Gras. “Fat Tuesday” is typically a day to overeat, overdrink, and indulge before the Lenten season begins, which supposedly signifies giving up all these “fleshly indulgences”.

What does Lent mean to you?

Some decide to give up chocolate,television, or some other thing that brings them pleasure. I think Lent is about more than that. Lent is a time to cut back on activities and fleshly pursuits so that we can spend that time reflecting on ourselves, our relationship with God, and our relationships with others.

What better way to do this than reflect on the person of Jesus Christ? After all, he is the embodiment of God and by looking at his life, his words, and his actions, we can learn how to treat others, how to live an honest and holy life, and how to love ourselves in a balanced way.

Jesus is the perfect example of a life well-lived; a life of service and sacrifice. Jesus knew his purpose in life and dedicated each day to fulfilling it. He made it a priority to heal, to help, to encourage those who were hurting. He was a friend to the poor, the outcast, and the lonely. Most importantly, Jesus followed the will of God, and not his own will, straight to the cross. Guiltless, he paid the penalty for all of our sins in one sacrificial act of atonement.

Isn’t that the truest example of love? To sacrifice yourself for someone else? Denying oneself not just of pizza or chocolate, but to lay down one’s life for another. Jesus shed his blood for the forgiveness of our sins. Think about that for a bit.

Because of Jesus’s death and shed blood, we are seen as cleansed in the sight of God. We can now come to the Father, unashamed and forgiven of all our past mistakes. There is a price to pay and Jesus paid it for us, once and for all.

If you have not considered Jesus lately, dear one, perhaps this Lenten season may be the time to do so. He has a purpose and a plan for your life that only He can reveal. May the Lord of the Universe reveal himself in a new way to you this Lenten season!