According to author, Gary Chapman, there are 5 specific ways people give and receive love. Today I want to talk about the second love language – words of affirmation. This means giving praise, encouragement, saying “I love you”, “I appreciate you”, “I’m proud of you” and so on.
For some people, those three little words “I love you” have tremendous impact. “Oh, she knows I love her. Look how hard I work for her,” you might be saying to yourself. Guys, if words of affirmation is her love language, she needs to HEAR it from you directly. Same thing for you gals out there. The man in your life needs your affirmation and acceptance. He needs to HEAR how much you appreciate the things he does for you. I think we all need to make an effort to LOOK for each opportunities to praise and encourage our mate, partner, and children.
If this is your love language, chances are you give a lot of words of affirmation to others. We tend to give love in the way that we want to receive it, but that is not necessarily how the other person feels loved. If you are not sure, try speaking out words of affirmation on a daily basis and see what kind of effect it has on your significant other. Too often we are quick to criticize. Ephesians 4:29 encourages us in this regard: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths but only what is helpful in building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Colossians 4:6 says “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
Are my words seasoned with salt and pleasant to the ear and heart? Until next time, be aware of what you say and how you say it to others. You might just be surprised at how simple being kind can be!