If there was one thing you could do to have more peace in your life, would you do it? Think about this for a moment – one thing you could do.
Everyone has trials and troubles. That, my friends, is what we call life. Challenges will always be with us. The key is to how we deal with the challenges. People often wonder why so many things go wrong in their lives. We scratch our heads and wonder in astonishment why things have gone awry. This is when I have to take a step back and ask myself the question “What is really going on here?”
We all want to have more peace in our lives. We want things to run smoothly and to achieve our dreams and goals. We want to be happy and have a rich and abundant life.
It is possible if we are sure to do this one simple step. It’s funny, because most of what we need to do to have a good life is very simple. The very first thing we need to do is to start doing the right thing. I’m not talking about the right thing in a moral sense here, although, doing something immoral is definitely not going to bring us peace. I’m talking about doing the right thing in regards to our values and goals.
Let me give you an example. Say you are all upset about your weight. When you get up in the morning, you hate what you see in the mirror. You do not have peace about what you look like. At the office, someone brings in donuts. What action will give you peace? Eating a donut or passing on the donuts? Pass on the donuts because you want to lose weight. You will feel not only a sense of peace, but a sense of mastery and power. You resisted the temptation. Get the idea? Here’s another example. You’ve had a good dinner. It’s a nice evening outside. You can a) plop yourself down in front of the boob tube or b) go for an after dinner walk and help your system burn off some of those calories. Did you know you burn more calories the 20 minutes right after eating? These choices are in line with your values and goals i.e. to lose weight. When we act in alignment with our values and goals, we have more peace in our spirits. This applies to other areas of our lives as well.
Same thing goes with financial peace. Thousands of Americans are in debt because they can’t control their spending. They “need” to have the latest technology, electronic gadget, newest car, bigger house, etc. They feel an inner compulsion to keep up with what “other people” are doing. But they know deep down inside they really can’t afford any of them nor do they really and truly need them. So a new smart phone comes out in the market. Their smart phone works just fine. What do they do next time they are at Best Buy? They buy a new smart phone. Now is this action going to bring them peace in the long term? Their goal is to get out of debt, but their actions are not in line with their values. So no, they are not doing “the right thing” and this choice will not bring them peace.
Do you get the concept here? So much of the stress in our lives can be eliminated if we would simply do the right thing. Act in accordance with our values, dreams,and goals. Don’t allow ourselves to be swayed by others, the media, or advertising. Know what it is we value and want in our lives and then practice saying “NO” to any action, person, or activity that does not fit into the picture. Says author Anne Lamott, “No” is a complete sentence. It is also a very powerful tool in maintaining peace in our lives. Say no to the donut, no to the purchase, no to the event or activity that you really don’t have the desire or the time to attend anyway.
If we will begin to implement this one simple step – doing the right thing – we will find more peace because we will be saying “Yes” to what it is we really and truly want in our lives. We will be living more in congruence with our values and our decisions will become easier. A tip is to ask ourselves this question: “Is this the right thing for me?” If the answer is a sincere “Yes”, we are good to go.
I hope you have enjoyed this post. If you have any comments or feedback, I would love to hear from you so please post them. Until next time, just do the next right thing and keep looking up!