Stay Connected – Part 1

What would we do without cell phones, tablets, blackberries and bluetooth? They have become indispensable these days, yes? People are texting, tweeting, googling and emailing much of their day. Corporations and now even churches allow tweets in an attempt to engage people. Staying connected today is in some ways easier than its ever been. But what explains the fact that so many feel disconnected? Alone? Misunderstood? What explains the increasing rate of suicide among teens?

Today, a friend shared a story that illustrates a worst case scenario. She sent birthday wishes via Facebook to a friend she hadn’t seen in a few years. They had both been close due to similar health issues but then one moved out of state. After reading some of the comments, my friend came to the shocking realization that her friend had died – 3 years ago!

Now, I’m all for social media, please don’t misunderstand. But could it be that all this tweeting and texting is merely a façade? A cheap imitation of the real thing?

True connection takes time, thought, and energy. True connection is a meeting of the heart and soul of two people, not just the minds. You know when it happens. No, wait – you feel it when it happens. Your soul feels connected to another, understood at a deep level, cherished. You are totally and completely “in the moment”. Hours can pass and you suddenly look at your watch and exclaim:
“Where did all the time go?”

These are what I call God moments because when two souls connect, God is present. You realize time is not really all that important because, after all, time is a construct of the human mind. You come away feeling fulfilled, honored, loved. It is a precious gift we give to another. Just like choosing a special gift for that certain someone, true connection requires time, thought, and energy.

The soul craves connection: to others and to God. In this fast-paced “hurry up and get it done so I can move on to the next thing” world, what are we to do? For more on this topic, stay tuned for next week’s post. Do post a comment and let me know your thoughts on this and until then, keep looking up!

Talk Less, Listen More

People like to talk. I think that’s why social media such as Twitter and Facebook, and cellphones have become so popular. People want to talk about what’s on their minds and what’s going on in their lives and there’s nothing wrong with that – to a point.

Gender doesn’t seem to matter. It has been said women talk more than men but I know several men who can out-talk a woman any day of the week. It seems the more free time someone has on their hands, the more they like to “shoot the breeze”.

But sometimes I long for good old peace and quiet. Seems like it’s a rare commodity these days. Yes?

Did you know that the Bible has a lot to say about talking. See what you think about these nuggets of wisdom.

When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.” (Prov. 18:18)

Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” (James 1:19)

A man of knowledge uses words with restraint and a man of understanding is even tempered.” (Prov. 17:27)

Basically, speak only when necessary, avoid unwholesome talk and use words that are uplifting and edifying to the hearer (Eph. 4:29). Sometimes that’s quite a tall order, wouldn’t you say?

The truth of the matter is that we could all, yes, that includes me, use more practice in listening. As I used to tell my kids, “That’s why God gave us two ears and one mouth, so we can listen twice as much as we speak.”

So, what do you have to say 🙂 Are you a talker? Do you like to chit chat for hours on end? Or are you one of the silent types who barely utters a word? The goal of this post is to encourage us all to strive for balance in our speech because silence truly is golden.

Until next time, keep the faith and keep looking up!