How Important Is It?

Gas prices. Traffic. Gaining a few pounds. Having a fight with your significant other. Stress from the job. Not having a date on saturday night. Getting older. The list of things that irritate us can go on and on, can’t it? What’s bothering you these days?

Many people like to complain. They complain about the weather, their spouse, the health care system, their aches and pains, ya da ya da ya da. We can always find something to complain about. But what’s the point? Complaining only gives life to that which annoys us and makes us relive it one more time.

Now, I am not saying deny reality. We do have to deal with situations that are unpleasant, that is for sure. But, do we have to dwell on them? It’s bad enough we have to live them one time, but to talk about it again and again only makes us more miserable. Instead of complaining, why not do something about the situation?

A phrase from Al-Anon that I find helpful is to ask myself the question,”How important is it?” Most of the stuff that annoys us is pretty trivial in the big scheme of things, isn’t it? When it comes to life or death of a loved one,now that is important.

As I said to my youngest the other day, life will always have positives and negatives. It’s up to us which we will focus on. We can choose to focus on the good things that happen to us during the course of the day or the bad things. It is a choice we all have to make, whether we realize it or not. What we focus on determines the level of joy in our lives.

So, if you have lost the joy in life, try listening to yourself and see what you’re focusing on. Are you dwelling on the negatives or the positives in your life?

As for me, I like to remember the verse from Phillipians that encourages me to think on things that are pure, noble, and of good report. The Apostle Paul knew the secret to maintaining his joy and he had a very rough time, don’t you think?

Until next time, keep smiling and keep looking up!