Love Languages – Part 4

The fourth love language is quality time; spending one on one time with your mate or partner.

Gals like to do things like shop, get their nails done, go for a massage. They love it when their partner wants to join them in these things. Guys, on the other hand, like to do physical activities such as biking, hiking, skiing, rock climbing, motorcycle riding. They love it when their woman wants to join them in these activities. I have also noticed that men that like to watch sports like their woman to be there with them while they are watching the big game.

So, what to make of these realities? Yes, I understand that going for a manicure or a massage or watching a football game might not be something you would like to do for YOURSELF. However, we are not talking about pleasing yourself here. We are talking about loving THE OTHER PERSON. The question to ask is not “How am I going to please myself?” but “How can I please my mate?”

In my opinion, women have a tendency to devote most of their time and energy to the kids, the house, and various other activities. By the end of the day, they have little time or energy to devote to their spouse who really needs her attention. Men have a tendency to put their jobs first, thinking that by saying “Look how hard I work for you” they are showing love. If your mate’s primary love language is quality time, she is going to value your time together more than your hours at the office working overtime.

So, dear ones, today, consider how much time are you spending with your loved one. If your relationship is faltering, plan an outing together, a picnic, a night on the town or even spend a quiet evening at home after a nice meal. It just may put the sparkle back in your love life!